Day 16: Discovering what you need
Just a short little post today, as I sit here at the Dallas Fort-Worth airport. My thought today is about how important it is that we discover what we need
Case in point, I have a friend who always is running ragged. She does everything for her large family, her husband, her friends, her co-workers. Her hair is always on fire, she's always out of breath, if you ask her how she's doing, she'll always have something exasperating to say. She always seems on the brink of tears. It hurts me to see her this way.
The other day I asked her, "Honey, what do you need right now?"
She paused, and said "I have absolutely no idea. None."
This concerns me. If we move through life with this detatchment from ourselves, I feel that we are cheating ourselves out of really living.
Part of my yoga practice, both as a teacher and a student is to take time at the beginning of practice to sink inside myself and ask myself what I need. Do I need some attention and love? Do I need some quiet? Do I need some friendly conversation and intellectual stimulation? Do I need some creativity? Do I just need to move my body and breath deeply?
See, my hypothesis is that if you quiet your mind, stop moving for just a brief time, take 3 deep breaths and ask yourself, "sweetheart, darling love, what do you need right now?" your body, mind and spirit will answer.
You will discover what you need.
Then, it is time to honor your self by listening to that message. Truly listening. Attend to your needs. Take a break. Drink some tea. Do something creative. Take a nap. Nurture yourself.
One of the greatest lessons I've learned from Whole30, is when you stop numbing yourself with food, when you stop shoving the feelings and emotions down, your have a nice clear path to yourself. That path is ripe for wonderment and happiness, and it takes some time to get used to feeling. Really feeling.
One way through those feelings is just to quiet yourself for a few moments, even in the midst of a crazy day, to be present. Give it a try. Tell me how it goes.
Love and hugs,